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Dyscalculia: ‘I am just wired this way, and that’s okay’. Sylvie Nachilyango


Dyscalculia: ‘I am just wired this way, and that’s okay’. Sylvie Nachilyango

Dyscalculia: ‘I am just wired this way, and that’s okay’.

Sylvie Nachilyango

As a child, I knew that I preferred reading and writing over any activities that had anything to do with numbers! I was acutely aware that numbers caused me a deep sense of frustration and sadness, so I avoided them as much as I could.

As an adult, I have come to accept the different ways in which my brain functions as a neurodivergent person.

Dyscalculia is a maths learning disorder that makes mathematical reasoning and computation difficult. It not only impacts academic and career prospects but has a significant impact on everyday life. People can be dyscalculic even when they have adequate education, when they are intelligent and when they have proper motivation.

Dyscalculia : How to pronounce it: The “cu” in dyscalculia sounds like the “cu” in calculator, also pronounced to rhyme with the name Julia.

In 2012, I was diagnosed with dyscalculia. I remember the day I got my diagnosis very clearly. It is a day I will never forget because of how I felt (relief) and because of the kind and reassuring words said to me by my kind but stern assessor. I will come back to this a bit later on.

Whenever I tell people that I have Dyscalculia, the usual response is ‘oh I am bad at Maths too’! Professor Brian Butterworth, a Cognitive Neuroscientist, University College London, has explained the difference between Dyscalculic and someone that’s just a bit ‘crap at Maths’.

He says that there are lots of reasons for being ‘a bit rubbish’ at Maths, for example; not having a good maths teacher, not liking the teacher and not attending maths classes. With maths being a cumulative subject, unlike History, if you miss many lessons, it’s very hard to catch up.

Dyscalculia on the other hand, can occur in people that attend every single maths lesson (like I did!), they try ‘very hard’ (like I did), they are motivated to learn, they come from supportive backgrounds, they are intelligent, they pass all their other subjects with flying colours and yet they are unable to do even the most basic tasks in maths that everyone else in their class can do.

So, there is a big difference and that difference is that dyscalculia is a medically recognised neurological condition.

Let’s take it back to my childhood. For a long time, my dyscalculia went undiagnosed and life was very very hard because we live in a world dedicated to sequences and numbers.

Childhood – my early signs of Dyscalculia

Monopoly, Mario Kart, all things Nintendo Wii, Snakes and Ladders, ichiyenga (A Zambian  game), all signified ‘fun’ for my friends. For me, these things had connotations of dread, stress, anxiety, aka not fun at all. It’s not that I didn’t understand the rules, it’s just that I was terrible at the numerical side of it, working out for example when it was my turn or keeping score. It was all alien and foregin to me. For the most part, it’s still foreign to me. It was as simple as that. I didn’t get it. No matter how hard I tried.

In primary and secondary school, maths classes were also a foregin language to me. I struggled to understand anything in class. That’s not an exaggeration. I really didn’t get it. At all. None of it! The best way to describe my formal education when it came to maths is, I was always in the room, but the teachers spoke a foreign language that I did not understand.

In high school, the school’s solution was to move me to what they called ‘the bottom set’. It never occurred to anyone to question why I was getting A*s to C grades in all my other subjects and F and Gs (basically Fails)  in Maths. In their defence, they probably hadn’t heard of Dyscalculia at the time, many people hadn’t, myself included. Even today this learning disability is still 10 years behind Dyslexia in research!

During high school, my mum noticed the discrepancy in my grades and got me a maths tutor. (Thanks mum for looking out!) For 2-3 years, before I took my final GCSE Maths exams, I spent a few days a week after school with this maths tutor.

However, as the underlying issue I had was my undiagnosed dyscalculia, despite hours of maths lessons in school and despite my maths tutor’s best efforts, I did my final GCSE Maths exams and still only managed a G (the equivalent to a 1 or 2 in the new grading structure – also known as a Fail).

College and University – still undiagnosed.

Despite my maths struggles, I was otherwise a high achiever and managed to secure a place at college to study Law, Politics and English Language (A Levels). But my offer was on one condition; I had to retake my GCSE Maths!

The long and frustrating story is that I was at college for 2 years. Each year I re-took my GCSE Maths exams. I failed again in the first year of college and got a very low grade in the second year. During the same time, I completed my A Levels and obtained grades AAB in Politics, Law and English. At this stage, I had retaken my GCSE Maths 3  times. That’s right THREE!

It was an emotional battle that I struggled with as a child, in my teens and in my early twenties. I often felt a sense of shame, guilt,embarrassment and that sadness. Guilt that maybe I was just not trying hard enough. I paid attention and went to every class. So it just didn’t make sense! WHY COULD I NOT GET THE HANG OF THIS!!!!!?!??!! I often cried about this out of sheer frustration.

As with most things, life goes on. I passed my A Levels, so off to University I went.

At this stage, I had gotten by in life without maths adversely affecting me and I dealt with that shame and guilt by never really speaking about it. But, I got to university and wasn’t doing very well in my Tax Law, because… you guessed it NUMBERS!

At this stage, I had just turned 18, left home, and was living in the real world (almost) at university. Everyday things like counting the right change, reading bus times tables/trains, getting to places on time, and reading clocks were definitely a challenge. I had to do these things for myself and now that I wasn’t living at home any more with mum not there to help me, I definitely found some of these basic life skills very challenging.

For the first time in my life, I thought to myself  something is very wrong here, I didn’t know what it was but I knew something was wrong. ‘’What if I can’t get a proper job when I finish uni because of this’’? became a constant thought at the back of my head.

I successfully completed my 3 year degree and obtained a 2:1 Bachelors in Law (LLB) and thankfully, I also managed to pass my tax classes. Phew!

The real world

Queue entering the ‘real world’. It was time to get a job, my first proper ‘big girl job’. Most jobs I was applying for required me to complete verbal reasoning and mathematical reasoning tests. I will let you guess which test I would pass and which one I failed and caused me to not move forward in the recruitment process! #Sadtimes!


It was in 2012, 2 years after graduating that it dawned on me that I can’t avoid this, (whatever, ‘this’ was) forever and that the consequences of avoidance were far greater, than the consequences of facing up to whatever was going on.

After a bit of research, I ended up going to a private assessment centre in London, Kings Cross and did a full dyscalculia evaluation /assessment with an Educational Psychologist. The kind but stern assessor I mentioned earlier!

Although dyscalculia is a recognised medical condition, unfortunately it does not readily come under the ambit of GPs or the NHS. So, I had to go private to find out what had been going on with me all these years! I don’t remember how much I paid, but I remember it being expensive. Sadly it’s still very expensive to this day, a quick scan of the internet tells me it’s around £450, depending on where you go.

I spent a couple of hours with the assessor and I did various tests. From what I remember the tests included quantitative reasoning, computation skills, maths fluency, mental computation and I was also given some geometry tasks ! (Pure stress – hated it! I remember it now). The Diagnosis I received that day was that I had severe dyscalculia.

I was relieved I now had a reason and understood why I was 23 years old, still didn’t know my times tables, still couldn’t work out what my change should be in the shop and still counting using my fingers.

As I was leaving his office, the assessor stopped me and said words that live with me to this day and always will, given that Dyscalculia is a lifelong condition.

He said ‘’there is nothing wrong with you. There are strategies and ways to deal with numbers and maths and ways to manage your diagnosis. Focus on the things you’re good at and you can still do well in life.’’.

He clearly saw that I had been troubled by this learning disability all my life and from the conversation I had just had with him, he realised I was having a real awakening. I stood there wondering what this diagnosis meant for me and my future.

I got home and I cried. Tears of joy and relief mainly. I could finally stop blaming myself. Finding out my diagnosis offered a sense of relief and  although I was still going back out into a world largely dictated by maths, numbers and sequences, I left that office a very different person.

2022: So what about today: how is my life going as a 33 year old Dyscalculic?

As an adult, I have had to work very hard to change my mindset around my dyscalculia diagnosis. I no longer feel guilt, shame or embarrassment. The way I see it, is that ‘this is just the way I am wired’.

After my diagnosis, I promised made a promise to myself to be kind to myself and to not beat myself up when I couldn’t catch on to a game I was playing with friends and to correct any hurtful comments from people; whether intentional or unintentional about my often slow reactions to games/understanding or even counting my change on the rare occasion I pay with cash. (Monzo bank is a life saver for me because of how it really helps me to keep an eye on my spending and the Monzo ‘pots’ are great! )

In 2012, I decided that I was only going to focus my career aspirations on things I was good at like problem solving, writing, critical analysis and made sure to apply for jobs where my strongest skills would be at use. I owed it to myself to be the best version of myself.

I am very open about my dyscalculia diagnosis. You know why? Because disability, no matter how profound, does not diminish personhood. As a person with an atypical brain, I am fully human, just like everyone else. I truly embrace the fact that I am just ‘wired’ differently and this ‘wiring’ has in fact given me a competitive edge throughout my career, because I have strong skill sets in other areas that someone else might not have. I have focused on those skill sets and I can safely say, I am a dyscalculic that’s doing alright in her career!

It also takes a lot of energy to hide this part of you and can be emotionally draining. Finding myself in places (socially and professionally) where people accept me for me has given me happiness and freedom I could have never imagined. Equally removing myself from environments and people that make me feel less than has also brought me joy.

I might get the odd, funny look from people for still using my fingers to count at 33 years old and that I can’t tell you what 9 x 4 is without using a calculator (or any other times table calculation for that matter!) , but as a Strategic Estates Manager (Project Management) working for a well known public sector organisation, I tend to hyperfocus as a result of wanting to make sure that I will get things right,especially where numbers are involved. My employers in the last few years, as a result of my dyscalculia disclosure have made reasonable adjustments for me in most cases, eg, giving me the extra time I need to do tasks involving numbers and providing a calculator for me to use.

Being dyscalculic is a one part of who I am as a human being, just like being a black person and a woman are also parts of who I am. These things are important parts of my identity but each aspect alone does not define me.

Line Rothmann during her TED Talk, perfectly summed up her dyscalculia diagnosis when she said she does not identify herself with her brain, her right foot, her thumb or her heart. She says ‘dyscalculia is not her personality but she cannot run away from it being a part of her personality…’ and that her hope is that we can embrace our entire selves.

You can watch Line Rothmann’s Ted linked below. Worth watching – only 11 mins long.

Do I still get frustrated that I am Dyscalculic, yes. Absolutely.

These are just some of the dyscalculic difficulties specific to me:

I generally struggle to understand the meaning and concepts of numbers, especially the larger numbers.

Directions, maps, floor plans, signs, symbols and anything involving coordination or timing are a logistical nightmare for me. (This significantly impacted my driving lessons !)

Mental arithmetic (timed) is virtually impossible for me ( Example, multiplication, addition, division, subtraction is something I cannot do in my head. At all.)

I have difficulty counting backwards.

I am slow to perform very basic mathematical calculations

I struggle to read most analogue clocks accurately.

Time management is often a challenge (for example, I often underestimate how long it might take me to get somewhere or I have also at times overestimated and arrived at appointments 2 hours early! Usually hilarious, but also frustrating!)

These are issues I have to deal with for the rest of my life. So, I have learnt to switch to a positive mindset whenever that frustration comes.

Is there a friend that can help me out if I am really struggling? In job interviews, I disclose my dyscalculia diagnosis as early as possible in the recruitment process. I also work as a Career Strategist. I work with early – mid career job seekers to help them turn their interviews into job offers.

Disclosure of diagnosis, if someone is comfortable to do it is something that I encourage my clients to do. It just frees you from the idea that you should hide this part of you. There is no shame in it and if you find yourself ever hiding parts of you, ask yourself if you’re in the right environment!. Check out https://career-mindedcircles.com/ for more job search strategies including.

I am also constantly learning from other Dyscalculics and surround myself with a network of support, for example the Dyscalculia Network!

I apply the same logic and mindset to social settings, it’s now not a big deal to me anymore that I am not the best at playing video games or that more often than not I can’t keep score or I don’t know when it is my turn when playing games and that I might need help. I f I need help, I need help. For those that are unaware of my diagnosis, I simply explain to them that I am dyscalculic.

People will either get it or they won’t. As an adult, the way I see it is, having a support network, especially friendships that get it and are kind and understanding is so important.

How can you support a dyscalculic person?

Don’t see them or treat them as someone that you need to ‘fix’. The most frequently asked and the most hurtful questions to ask a dyscalculic person are ‘really you can’t do that… even a 5 year old can do that’ or ‘really how about 5 x 3,or how about 6 x 4’.  The reality is we wouldn’t dream of asking someone that is in a wheelchair if they really can’t walk.

Writing this blog and sharing my experience is one of the ways to raise awareness but I am also especially passionate about sharing with my friends, family and community especially within the Black, Asian and Minority communities. Let’s talk about our experiences.

I will end by saying writing this blog post has been very cathartic! It has helped me remember that the day I stopped ‘blocking out’ my dyscalculia and the day I got out of my comfort zone and brought myself a whole to the table.

More people now use the language of neurodiversity and are talking about acceptance and support of differences.  Thinking in terms of neurodiversity means challenging our assumptions and our biases. Whether you are dyscalculic or whether you know someone with dyscalculia or any other neurodivergent condition for that matter, I say, let’s keep the conversation going!

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